Griffin Oakley

Different person. Different type, even. Then six months in, there you are again. Same fight you always have. Same silence. Same feeling of reaching for someone who won't reach back, or backing away from someone who won't stop reaching.

You know him. Maybe he's your father. Your brother. Your boss. The guy you married, or the guy in the mirror. He has a rule. He's never said it out loud, maybe never even thought it in words, but he lives by it without a single day off. Nothing soft gets out. Nothing soft gets close. Not in himself. He burned that out a long time ago. Not in you either. A man who cries. A man who needs something and says so. Anyone who goes quiet and tender and open. He can't stand to look at it. It reads as...

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