Finding a therapist who actually gets it — not just professionally, but personally — makes a difference. I'm a gay therapist. I'm not going to need you to explain what it's like to navigate a world that wasn't built with you in mind. We can skip that part and get straight to the work.
What we can work on together
LGBTQ+ affirming therapy isn't a separate modality — it's a lens. It means your identity is treated as a strength, not a problem to be managed. We can work on anything: coming out, family estrangement, relationship issues, internalized shame, the grief of what you missed, or just the regular hard stuff of being human. You don't have to compartmentalize here.
Who this is for
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Navigating coming out at any stage of life
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Processing family rejection or estrangement
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Internalized shame or self-acceptance struggles
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Identity exploration — sexual orientation, gender, or both
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Anxiety or depression rooted in discrimination or minority stress
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Trauma from religious upbringing or conversion experiences
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Just wanting a therapist who gets it without needing to be educated
Therapeutic approaches include:
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ACT — building a life rooted in your actual values, not the ones you were handed
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CBT — challenging the internalized messages that became your inner critic
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DBT — emotional regulation and interpersonal skills for navigating difficult relationships
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SFBT — focusing on what thriving actually looks like for you specifically
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Attachment-informed — understanding how rejection and conditional love shaped how you connect
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Minority stress framework — working with the cumulative impact of discrimination and marginalization
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Parts work — exploring the parts of you shaped by shame, survival, or hiding
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Affirmative care — an approach that never treats your identity as the problem
You deserve a therapist who gets it
I'm a gay therapist who specializes in trauma, identity, and attachment. I understand the particular weight of navigating a world that doesn't always make space for you — the internalized messages, the family dynamics, the grief of what you missed. You won't have to explain yourself here. I offer a free consultation to see if we're a good fit. No pressure, no commitment. Just a conversation.
Take the First Step
You deserve a therapist who actually gets it — not just someone who took a training. I'm a gay man and a gay therapist. I've lived some version of what you're navigating. That doesn't mean our experiences are the same, but it does mean you won't spend half your session explaining context.
Meet Your Therapist
Griffin Oakley, MSCP, NCC, LMHC, LPC
I'm a gay therapist. This isn't just a specialty I offer — it's who I am.
I understand the particular weight of navigating identity, coming out, religious trauma, and a world that doesn't always make space for you. I also understand the internalized messages that can come with that history — the shame, the self-doubt, the grief of what you missed. You won't have to explain yourself here. We can just get to work.
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Griffin Oakley, MSCP, NCC, LMHC, LPC — dual-licensed therapist with advanced DBT certification and extensive training in trauma-informed and LGBTQ+ affirmative care.
